Dear Abby,
So, I’ve been in this text relationship for almost a year now. Yeah, I call it a text relationship because we literally just text each other. I’m not really into video chatting, so it doesn’t bother me that we don’t Zoom or anything like that. The few times he’s tried to video call me, it just doesn’t really click, you know? But even though we only text, we’ve somehow formed this deep bond where we totally get each other. He knows when I’m feeling down and need a pick-me-up, and vice versa. It’s like we have all the good stuff you’d want in a relationship, just through texts.
But here’s the thing – he’s always traveling because of his job, so I never actually see him in person. But honestly, that’s not a big deal for me. What is a big deal, though, is that even though he’s loaded with cash (way more than I’ll ever have), he keeps asking me to send him money. Mostly so he can play games while he’s out and about. At first, I try to say no, but then I end up giving in. And just to put it out there, I never ask him for anything. I’m not about that “gimme” life. I’ll figure out a way to get what I need on my own.
But now, it’s starting to bug me that he’s always hitting me up for cash (and nothing else, mind you). I just don’t know how to tell him to stop and maybe hit up one of his rich buddies instead. How do I fix this mess I’ve gotten myself into? – Feeling Uneasy in Maryland
Okay, so here’s the deal, if you really want to fix this mess, just stop texting him and don’t send him any more money. Seriously, if you follow this advice, I guarantee this gamer dude will vanish into thin air once he realizes the money train has left the station. You’ve been taken for a ride, my friend. Hopefully, it wasn’t too much more than you could afford.
Hey Abby,
So, my niece Alyssa is an only child and she’s on the kidney transplant list. When I got my DNA test done, I found out that my brother actually fathered another child. This woman, Bree, who claims to be his daughter, seems pretty legit. I have no doubts that she’s telling the truth.
Unfortunately, my brother pretty much ditched this daughter of his. Bree doesn’t really want to have anything to do with him or with me. But she did have some questions about health stuff because she has kids of her own.
My brother and I haven’t spoken in like a decade, mainly because of how he treated our parents before they passed. Should I respect Bree’s wishes and keep quiet, or should I tell her about her half-sister who needs a transplant? – Concerned Aunt in Florida
Alright, so if you think letting Bree know about Alyssa’s need for a kidney might help, then go ahead and spill the beans. But just remember, there’s no guarantee that Bree’s kidney would even be a match. And don’t be shocked if Bree isn’t too thrilled about the whole thing, considering she has no relationship with her dad or the rest of your fam. Good luck with all that, seriously.
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